A Problem You Don’t Have to Have

We’ve been hearing a lot about the Valedictorian who was denied her diploma because she used the word “hell” in her speech. See here. The school board demands an apology; she won’t give one.

She is no hero for standing up for free speech. The school board is no hero for making a point too late.

People don’t do what you want them to do and sometimes you decide to let them get away with it because your life is too big and you have places to go and no time to get bogged down in the fight to be right.

If the girl won’t issue the apology and move on, she has other issues. Keep watching. This is going to pop up again for her. If the school board is trying to draw a line that is out of all proportion to the crime and whose actions won’t matter, well, that’s public education for you – bureaucrats who enforce rules for a living in ways that are counterproductive.

People who decide to live significantly overlook lots of things because the fights that come from them aren’t worth it. They make a calculation and walk away. People who are small on the inside and have to be right no matter the cost end up losing big time – fights they don’t need to have, irritations they don’t need feel, relationships broke they don’t have to lose, etc. Pretty soon they become the boy who cried wolf too many times. They are just irritated people who become irritating.

Today walk away from stuff you can’t afford to get bogged down with – the insult you can afford to ignore, the argument you can afford to lose, the extra workload you can afford to do in order to avoid a bigger fight later on that will take a whole lot more time, the right of way at the four stop sign corner that you don’t have to claim, the slight you can ignore. For a moment you will be bothered, feel like a doormat. But then it will float away and you are free – free not to waste your life, time or reputation on what does not matter.

You win!!!

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