Here’s John Piper’s quote: That bullet, that devil, took my baby. When the Lord picked that flower, he picked that flower. Both!
Here’s the story it refers to. http://www.startribune.com/local/minneapolis/136269143.html?page=1&c=y
We surely end up with a God who is in control. But this kind of response comes too close to the god of the stoics and does not breathe the metanarrative of Scripture.
High Calvinists look for all kinds of good things to say about very evil things. It might make their worship look tough, manly, LLBeanish, but it ends up on the wrong side of cruel.