Sex and DivorceCare

Anybody who knows me knows how much I love facilitating DC. I have been around it so long that I can “feel” how it works and where it “grates.” I think one of the areas in which it grates is its view of sex outside of marriage. By the time the “experts” finish describing sexual intimacy, you would think it is the front door to the Trinity. I am very uncomfortable putting sex that high up the ontology ladder. Of course, if it’s true, it’s true. But if it isn’t, the people in DC feel so crummy anyway that highlighting the “sex is holy” theme ad infinitum kills the spirit. State the case, give a couple of illustrations, then move on.

I think one of the hardet things I do in counseling is get people not to overreact to their marriage partner’s sex outside marriage. Yes, wrong. Yes, very wrong. Yes, very, very wrong. But if you ratchet that thing up too high, the possibilities of restoration become almost nil. The Bible states its case and moves on. We should, too.

This is one area where I am definitely in the minority. We Protestants need to leave marriage as sacramental with the RCs, who unfortunately are using it to kill the souls of too many people.